Just a short one...
Tomorrow is the day. Subtle and I are heading up the aisle and starting marital bliss. The last day or so have seen me a little stressed cooking the wedding cake, meeting the family matriarch and god knows what million other little things that need to be done. Though things are not always perfect with Subtle and I (and anybody who professes to a perfect relationship is deluded!), through it all he and I have tried to keep focused on what is important and to filter out the shit that comes along. We look forward to being able to affirm our love in public and make a commitment to each other. I have seen some rocky times in my love life, but Subtle has provided the most wonderful, grounding, secure and loving relationship that I have ever had. The ceremony, reception and honeymoon await, after which we return as Mr and Mrs Subtle.
Showing posts with label Good Dating Choices. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Good Dating Choices. Show all posts
Thursday, August 06, 2009
Saturday, January 03, 2009
How goes everyone after their festive season? I have been having a lovely time doing little and enjoying it immensely. I know that there are a few of you out there interested in what Subtle ended up giving me for Christmas. Well, he gave me lots of stuff. Stuff like a DVD I "needed" to watch, and even more Christmas CD's, as well as lollies and chocolate, and then some more sweet stuff. He gave me tickets to see one of the funniest men around - Dylan Moran. And finally, he also gave me the best kick-arse iPod sound dock around (I am iPod addicted) - see below!
But those are the tangibles - and yes - what good tangibles they are. But more than that, he gave me one of the best Christmases I have had in a very long time. I mentioned in my last entry that I often found the magic of Christmas waned by the day itself. The build-up to the day was wonderful, but then left me at a bit of a downer once the presents were opened. Not this year. We opened presents and had a lovely breakfast at home. We went out for lunch - just the two of us - and then visited friends and family for the remainder of the day.
And it was all fantastic.
The day held a little bit of that magic that had been missing for so long. It wasn't just the great presents, but it was the fact that I spent the day not in stressing about food, or relatives behaving, or preparing for disappointments. The day was spent with someone I love very much, and feeling and sharing that love. It was the best Christmas yet - Thank you my darling Subtle.
But those are the tangibles - and yes - what good tangibles they are. But more than that, he gave me one of the best Christmases I have had in a very long time. I mentioned in my last entry that I often found the magic of Christmas waned by the day itself. The build-up to the day was wonderful, but then left me at a bit of a downer once the presents were opened. Not this year. We opened presents and had a lovely breakfast at home. We went out for lunch - just the two of us - and then visited friends and family for the remainder of the day.
And it was all fantastic.
The day held a little bit of that magic that had been missing for so long. It wasn't just the great presents, but it was the fact that I spent the day not in stressing about food, or relatives behaving, or preparing for disappointments. The day was spent with someone I love very much, and feeling and sharing that love. It was the best Christmas yet - Thank you my darling Subtle.
Thursday, July 03, 2008
Things
So now that I have a boyfriend, the tasks, and criticisms begin.
The criticisms have come in the form of comments like, "Oh, you will be so boring now that we can't live our lovelives vicariously through you.". I think the only response to that one is 'Bite Me'. Although, I believe there are still stories lurking in the past that have yet to show up on here, so there maybe some vicariously living still to be done. Of course, now dating someone who is not only, lovely, but is a fellow blogger, and in fact met me through this blog, means that my fodder for writing about our relationship is probably off-limits for now. Subtle did say to me only today, "You aren't going to edit what you write now are you?". And no, I don't want to edit, but I think discretion and respect is the order of the day. Of course, until he does something really hysterical or stupid which needs to be reported! There is also the fact that now when he writes anything on his blog, my friends/readers will start reading it, and perhaps get a different viewpoint on me and my life. Yikes!
Anyway, the tasks that have begun are quite tedious. They involve the emails and phone calls to all the dating agencies and sites that I have employed over the years. Putting dating agencies on hold, and cancelling email-outs from speed dating companies, deleting/hiding profiles on online groups and extracting oneself from Facebook Singles Groups..... I didn't really appreciate how many ways in which I had been looking for relationships. Although places like RedHotPie and Adultmatchmaker probably don't really count as "relationship" sites. But, one tries anything when your options seem slim.
The other interesting thing with dating someone who has been a friend for a little while, but also has been reading every detail of your life for a number of years is that I have no stories to tell. Every time I try to tell him about something, I am told afterwards "Yes, dear, I know. I remember reading it." Hmmmm. But at least in knowing much of the worst there is to know about me, he still likes me regardless! Now that is a bonus.
So now that I have a
The criticisms have come in the form of comments like, "Oh, you will be so boring now that we can't live our lovelives vicariously through you.". I think the only response to that one is 'Bite Me'. Although, I believe there are still stories lurking in the past that have yet to show up on here, so there maybe some vicariously living still to be done. Of course, now dating someone who is not only, lovely, but is a fellow blogger, and in fact met me through this blog, means that my fodder for writing about our relationship is probably off-limits for now. Subtle did say to me only today, "You aren't going to edit what you write now are you?". And no, I don't want to edit, but I think discretion and respect is the order of the day. Of course, until he does something really hysterical or stupid which needs to be reported! There is also the fact that now when he writes anything on his blog, my friends/readers will start reading it, and perhaps get a different viewpoint on me and my life. Yikes!
Anyway, the tasks that have begun are quite tedious. They involve the emails and phone calls to all the dating agencies and sites that I have employed over the years. Putting dating agencies on hold, and cancelling email-outs from speed dating companies, deleting/hiding profiles on online groups and extracting oneself from Facebook Singles Groups..... I didn't really appreciate how many ways in which I had been looking for relationships. Although places like RedHotPie and Adultmatchmaker probably don't really count as "relationship" sites. But, one tries anything when your options seem slim.
The other interesting thing with dating someone who has been a friend for a little while, but also has been reading every detail of your life for a number of years is that I have no stories to tell. Every time I try to tell him about something, I am told afterwards "Yes, dear, I know. I remember reading it." Hmmmm. But at least in knowing much of the worst there is to know about me, he still likes me regardless! Now that is a bonus.
Tuesday, June 17, 2008
Ahem.... I have an announcement.
It would seem against all odds, at the moment, I seem to have found myself quite interested in a gentleman. And, even curiouser, he seems interested in me as well.
He is lovely and sweet, and intelligent, and for something different - IN THIS COUNTRY! I have known him as a friend for a little while now, so of course, trying to chart the prospect of a (gasp) relationship, is a little strange for us both. As is also typical in my life, I leave for seven weeks away in about five weeks time.
One of the strange things is that he has been my "stalker" online now for a couple of years. By which I mean, he has been reading all my exploits and trials - and yet, HE STILL LIKES ME! It is a bizarre world people. Keep posted... and in the meantime - read his history....
Oh, and Isabella likes him too!
It would seem against all odds, at the moment, I seem to have found myself quite interested in a gentleman. And, even curiouser, he seems interested in me as well.
He is lovely and sweet, and intelligent, and for something different - IN THIS COUNTRY! I have known him as a friend for a little while now, so of course, trying to chart the prospect of a (gasp) relationship, is a little strange for us both. As is also typical in my life, I leave for seven weeks away in about five weeks time.
One of the strange things is that he has been my "stalker" online now for a couple of years. By which I mean, he has been reading all my exploits and trials - and yet, HE STILL LIKES ME! It is a bizarre world people. Keep posted... and in the meantime - read his history....
Oh, and Isabella likes him too!
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